If you are considering filing a divorce and it is an amicable divorce, then sit down with the other party and write out the terms of the divorce. These terms include those relating to property, assets, and debt division, as well as custody, visitation, and child support if there are minor children.
If the divorce is not amicable, then before filing, ensure that you have as much knowledge and records as possible regarding your:
- Bank accounts
- Credit card debts
- Retirement accounts
- Any other debts or assets
If there are minor children involved, you should also save any relevant text messages and emails to an outside medium so that if your phone is lost, stolen, or damaged, then you have not lost potential and crucial evidence.
Child Custody & Visitation Tips
As to custody, there is legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody refers to who makes the major decisions for the child. You can have sole custody, joint custody, joint legal custody with one parent as primary physical custodial parent, or joint legal custody with one parent as primary physical custodial parent and final decision maker.
As to visitation, there are many different versions. For the most part, if the parties are able to come to an agreement on visitation schedule, then the Judge will likely approve it. If you have joint custody, then each party has physical custody/visitation as close to equal time as possible.
In Oklahoma, if one party only has standard visitation, then this means that said party has visitation every other weekend from Friday to Sunday, or Friday to Monday morning when the children return to school. The parties alternate the major holidays, such as:
- Spring break
- Fall break
- Thanksgiving break
- Winter/Christmas break
Finally, for summers, each party is entitled to two weeks in June, two weeks in July, and one week in August if school starts in August.
Child Support Tips
Child support is calculated based on each party’s gross monthly income, the number of overnights each party has with the minor children, monthly childcare expenses, and monthly health insurance premiums for the minor children.