I Do… I Did… I’m Done

When “happily ever after” becomes more like “neverly ever after,” you may find yourself walking down the aisle to divorce court. Similar to marriage, divorce is not something that you plunge into. After all, when you said “I do” divorce wasn’t part of the plan. Now that it is, you’re likely not sure where to even begin.

With emotions high and patience running thin, some people may just want out and do not care about the minor details; however, when it comes to divorce, there is nothing minor about it, except maybe if there are minors involved, which is major. The best thing that you can do when you are considering divorce is to educate yourself, even if that simply means hiring a great lawyer to inform you of what you need to know. In this blog, we will be exploring basic factors involving divorce that individuals should consider prior to starting the process.

First and foremost, divorce is not a process that should be rushed. It involves a substantial amount of thought and will be life-changing. Furthermore, legally there is a mandatory waiting period after filing before the divorce can even be granted. When minor children are not involved, there is a mandatory waiting period of 10 days; if children are involved, the waiting period increases to 90 days – but it can be waived if both parties agree. However, if both parties do not agree, it is considered a contested divorce, in which the time frame can vary. 

What to Consider When Considering Divorce

  • Prenuptial agreement (if applicable)

  • Child custody agreement (visitation, holidays, schooling, parenting plan, etc.)

  • Child support

  • Pets

  • Alimony

  • Property ownership

  • Vehicle ownership

  • Finances (debt, stocks, etc.)

  • Friends (this may seem trivial, but mutual friendship should be discussed)

  • Parties cannot enter into another nuptial agreement until six months have passed

Once the dissolution of marriage has been pursued, it cannot be stopped unless both parties are agreeance of reconciliation.

How to file for Divorce

Visit the district court in your county and file a request for dissolution of marriage. You will need to know what grounds you are requesting the dissolve:

  • Abandonment for one year

  • Adultery

  • Impotence

  • The wife becomes pregnant with another man’s child at the time of marriage

  • Extreme cruelty

  • Fraudulent contract

  • Incompatibility

  • Alcoholism

  • Neglect

  • Imprisonment

  • Procurement of final divorce decree from another state

  • Insanity for five years

Finding the Right Lawyer

Contrary to popular belief, many divorce lawyers are pro-marriage, which is why they use their education and experience to help families dissolve their marriage in such a way that is in their best interest. It's essential to have a competent and passionate attorney that understands that divorce is not just a piece of paper, but it's a significant life change. You need someone that will offer you comfort, but also straightforward advisement. Do your homework and view your lawyer’s past cases. Settling on the wrong lawyer could be the difference in the agreements of the divorce.

At the Mazaheri Law Firm, our attorneys meet with you one-on-one to listen to your needs and help you explore your options. We help make the process as stress-free as possible by answering your questions and doing our best to help you resolved it outside of a trial. However, we are always prepared for trial if necessary. Schedule a consultation today at (405) 414-2222.

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